Each week, Expensive Prudence solutions further questions from readers, only for Slate Plus contributors. Ashley C. Ford is filling in as Prudie for Jenée Desmond-Harris whilst she’s on parental depart. Put up questions right here.
Expensive Prudence,
I lately matched with a person on a relationship app and met up with him for beverages after which dinner. We paintings in the similar trade, and on our date we talked so much about paintings issues. We additionally discovered we’ve some mutual buddies, which is sensible as a result of the pro overlap.
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It used to be a truly a laugh date and I’d like to look him once more. However then I finished up telling one of the vital mutual buddies in regards to the date. She informed me that he made a girl at his final process uncomfortable by way of asking her out after which iced her out of conferences after she rejected him. I think truly bummed to be informed this! That’s like, textbook sexual harassment, proper? Must I ask him about this? It used to be about 5 years in the past and I am hoping he’s grown from the revel in however I don’t know the way to continue.
—Don’t Know Who to Accept as true with
Expensive Accept as true with,
In my thoughts you’ve two choices: 1) For those who’re the type of one who trusts your instincts, see the place this connection is going, and watch how he behaves now that you’ve got this new consciousness. In case your intestine tells you to chop your time in combination brief, pay attention to it. Or 2) consider the only excellent date fondly, and decline any new invites. If you’ll’t get this from your head or have a sneaking suspicion that this aspect of him will rear its head to stand you sooner or later, you don’t have to stay round to determine.
Accept as true with your self to grasp your subsequent proper step, however keep in mind that it used to be only a date. You don’t owe him the rest extra.
—Ashley
Vintage Prudie
My husband retired final Would possibly after a 30-year nerve-racking occupation in regulation enforcement. I used to be so happy since the tension he used to be beneath involved us each. To begin with, he spent the primary few months stress-free and doing not anything a lot. It’s nice to look him minus all of the tension he had. We’re making plans for my retirement subsequent yr. The problem is he does completely not anything along with his day.
