DEAR ABBY: I’ve been an novice astronomer for 25-plus years. I at all times cross meteor observing in addition to practice any celestial tournament. This 12 months I invited my brother-in-law and his spouse to look at a meteor bathe with my husband and me. Since we each have campers, I reserved and paid the deposit for 2 tenting websites at a pleasant location, with reference to probably the most highest night time skies. The reservations have been made greater than a month in the past.My sister-in-law, who I dearly love and feature been excellent buddies with for greater than twenty years, referred to as me the day before today to let me know my BIL had invited 3 in their preteen granddaughters. Abby, I believed they understood it will be an grownup tournament, as we’ll be up part the night time and touring half-hour to get to the darkish sky website. I do that once a year.I instructed my SIL that my BIL will have to’ve requested me first, since I invited them and made the entire preparations for this tournament. We talked at the telephone for 90 mins earlier than I instructed her my BIL was once improper for now not asking me first if it was once OK.Moments when we hung up, she texted me and mentioned to cancel their reservation as a result of they wouldn’t be attending. We’re riding 90 miles to this campsite. They reside half-hour from it. Used to be I improper to inform her I will have to’ve been requested first, since I’m the hostess for 2 days and nights? — STARRY-EYED IN THE WESTDEAR STARRY-EYED: Your brother-in-law will have to now not have invited someone alongside with out clearing it with you first. What they did will have been well-intentioned, but it surely was once additionally impolite. If any of the ones ladies presentations an passion in astronomy, sooner or later, you may make a choice to ask them for this type of tournament. However their presence will have to now not were sprung on you how it was once.Pricey Abby is written by means of Abigail Van Buren, sometimes called Jeanne Phillips, and was once based by means of her mom, Pauline Phillips. Touch Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.